In our Discovering the Bible series, my co-authors (Jean and Karla) and myself, try to…
My mentee, Renee Johnson Fisher, just
released another book, Not Another
Dating Book. This is a unique book with a nice mix of candid comments from
singles on relationships and devotionals on the wide variety of relationships a
single might have, and some great dating advice. If you are single, or know a
single, this book also offers a great example of a woman who made it her goal
to honor God in all her relationships and the outcome in her 30th
Renee, you interviewed many for your dating
book, what was the most interesting thing you learned from your peers?
I loved how many people were willing to spill
their most embarrassing date stories. I even got permission from my publisher
to include THEM ALL in the book. I think sometimes the dating scene becomes
frustrating, challenging, and just plain aggravating at times and it’s
important to laugh at ourselves. Isn’t that right Pam? Didn’t you even write a
book about that??
So you were tired of “dating” books, what
sets this one apart?
I spell it out in the first sentence of my
book: “I don’t claim to be an expert in dating.” So many Christian dating books
either assumed you were “dating” or a “virgin.” Although I had waited for my
husband, I couldn’t get a date to save my life. In “Not Another Dating Book” I
explore deeper issues not just the “to date or not to date challenge” such as
purity, online dating, characteristics of a relationship, and so much more!
While you were writing the dating book you
were in a dating relationship—tell me how dating Marc impacted this writing?
It was the most peculiar situation.
Everything my editor asked me to change in the second draft I was living with
Marc—even that day. Sometimes, I’d scream out loud and even run up and down the
stairs in my old apartment, but mostly I reveled in the fact that God was
showing off. I had to rewrite the entire end of my book and take out the
section where I previously wanted to say “there are no such thing as happy
endings.” Seriously. God rocked my socks off—and I don’t even wear socks.
You have a fun love story—tell us why you are
glad you decided to date according to God’s advice—was it worth the wait?
As I said in the forward, my parents forbid
me to date until I was 35. But all that changed when I was 27 and still single.
They started to be more interested in my love life than I was. Even though I’d
tried online dating a few times, I always felt guilty. My mom would tell me to
wait on God and let Him bring my husband to me. I disbelieved that would ever
happen. Exactly one year ago, Marc walked into my living room. I was co-leading
the 20-something’s growth group through North Coast Church in Vista, CA and we
had one spot left. Marc filled it. The more I got to know him, the more I was
challenged and wanted to get to know him. I didn’t know this, but he was drawn
to me too. He had checked out my blog and waited until I moved to San Diego to
ask me out. I only stayed down there two months and quickly moved back in with
my parents so we could seriously date. The day Marc proposed was exactly 12
years, 10 months, and 24 days to the day God promised me I’d have a mate. I’m
so glad I waited and I’m so honored to be married.
endorsement of Not Another Dating Book
I know Renee,
and she cares about people! If you want to protect your heart from a whole lot
of hurt, this book is a must read. Better yet, if you want God to do an amazing
work in YOU, so ALL your relationships function at their ultimate best- you
will love the advice Renee leads you to discover. If you want to laugh out loud
and feel better about one of your dates that might have gone wrong, Renee’s
humor will help you smile again. The best part of This is Not a Dating
Book is you will become the kind of person people love to be around.
-Pam Farrel, relationship expert, author of over 35 books including best
selling, Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti, Single Men Are Like
Waffles, Single Women Are Like Spaghetti, and 10 Best Decisions a Single
Some of our books for Singles:
10 Best Decisions a Single Can Make
Single Men Are Like Waffles, Single Women Are Like Spaghetti
available at www.Love-Wise.com (Discounts for orders of over 10 of any one title. Perfect for small groups!)